Towards the end of the 1960s, all my women friends used to devise a test question to recognise "the perfect marriage partner", once they left university. Some wanted a man committed to left wing politics; some wanted a partner more concerned with health and fitness; and others wanted a man steeped in literature.
My question to any man I met was "who were Alma Schindler's 3 husbands and 1 long term lover?" I married the man who answered this question the best :)
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Alma Schindler (1879-1964) was born in Vienna to the landscape artist Emil Schindler and singer Anna von Bergen in 1879. Emil Schindler was a rabid anti-Semite while Alma herself became a slightly lesser anti-Semite. This was strange, since two of Alma's three husbands were Jews.
After her father's death in 1892, Alma's mother married her late husband's former pupil Carl Moll, a co-founder of the Vienna Secession. Moll was one of my favourite Secessionists and a very important connection for young Alma. Alma's lively social life expanded as she met the artists of the Vienna Secession, including the very attractive Gustav Klimt.
Alma played the piano from childhood and loved composing from 1895 on. She met the composer Alexander von Zemlinsky in early 1900, began composition lessons with him and continued learning until Dec 1901; then Mahler made her stop composing! Zemlinsky was a great teacher and a great contact for Alma (after all, he taught Arnold Schönberg as well). But perhaps Mahler didn’t like Alma and Zemlinksy being lovers.
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After Mahler's death, in the years leading up to WW1, Alma had a passionate affair with the much younger artist Oskar Kokoschka (1886–1980), who painted many works about their shared passion. Although they broke up after a few years, Kokoschka continued an unrequited and hopeless love for Alma and later painted The Bride of the Wind in her honour.
With the coming of WWI, Kokoschka enlisted in the Austrian Army, so Alma resumed contact with Gropius who by this time was a soldier himself. She and Gropius married in 1915 and had a child together, Manon Gropius, who died tragically at 18. Composer Alban Berg wrote a violin work in Manon’s honour.
With Gropius still in the army, Alma began an affair with Czech poet and writer Franz Werfel (1890–1945) in 1917, an affair that became very public. Within a year, Gropius and Alma agreed to a divorce which became final in 1920. However Alma and Werfel did not marry until 1929.
In 1938, Werfel’s Jewishness became critical. With the Anschluss, Werfel was forced to flee Austria for France; so Alma joined him in a house in Southern France from 1938 until 1940. With the German invasion and occupation of France during WW2, Werfel faced Nazism terrorism close up and needed to immigrate to the USA as quickly as possible. Luckily Varian Fry, organiser of a private American relief and rescue organisation, was saving intellectuals and artists from Marseilles. Fry arranged for the Werfels to travel by foot across the Pyrenees into Spain, then to Portugal and by ship for New York. I do not understand why Alma went into exile with her Jewish husband since a] she did not like Jews, b] she quite supported Nazism and c] she actively supported Franco in Spain.
In the USA Werfel had great success with his novel The Song of Bernadette, which was made into a film in 1943. Alas Werfel died in the USA in 1945 but it did not seem to matter to Alma. In 1946 she became a USA citizen and remained a major cultural figure in New York. She died in 1964 in New York and was buried back in Vienna, alongside Gustav Mahler. Scholars carefully read her two books on Mahler, so not only was she a well-connected member of Vienna’s cultural elite, Alma was the main authority on Mahler's life and work. Accurately or not.
The New York Times said that early in life Alma seems to have understood that in the male-dominated atmosphere of Vienna, her role was to be a motivator and stimulant of brilliant men, in bed and out. But I wonder if being a famous socialite and active supporter of Gustav Mahler, Walter Gropius, Oskar Kokoschka, Franz Werfel and others was enough. Surely her own musical talents could have been much better realised.
My question to any man I met was "who were Alma Schindler's 3 husbands and 1 long term lover?" I married the man who answered this question the best :)
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Alma Schindler (1879-1964) was born in Vienna to the landscape artist Emil Schindler and singer Anna von Bergen in 1879. Emil Schindler was a rabid anti-Semite while Alma herself became a slightly lesser anti-Semite. This was strange, since two of Alma's three husbands were Jews.
After her father's death in 1892, Alma's mother married her late husband's former pupil Carl Moll, a co-founder of the Vienna Secession. Moll was one of my favourite Secessionists and a very important connection for young Alma. Alma's lively social life expanded as she met the artists of the Vienna Secession, including the very attractive Gustav Klimt.
Alma played the piano from childhood and loved composing from 1895 on. She met the composer Alexander von Zemlinsky in early 1900, began composition lessons with him and continued learning until Dec 1901; then Mahler made her stop composing! Zemlinsky was a great teacher and a great contact for Alma (after all, he taught Arnold Schönberg as well). But perhaps Mahler didn’t like Alma and Zemlinksy being lovers.
In March 1902 Alma married an older Gustav Mahler (1860-1911) who was the director of the Vienna Court Opera. They moved into a home near the Opera House where they had two daughters, Maria Anna (born 1902) who died in childhood, and Anna (born 1904) who survived into old age. With her own career nipped in the bud, Alma became the chief supporter of Gustav's music. At least until she met and became very close with the young architect Walter Gropius. Gropius was my favourite Austrian architect and eventually the director of my favourite art school in all the world, The Bauhaus. Gustav Mahler finally realised his wife had composing talent so he helped her prepare some of her songs for publication in 1910.
The Alma Mahler-Werfel Diaries from 1898-1902
edited by Antony Beaumont
were published in 2000.
The young couple travelled together to New York, where Gustav worked as a conductor. But in 1911 he tragically died, soon after their return to Vienna.
After Mahler's death, in the years leading up to WW1, Alma had a passionate affair with the much younger artist Oskar Kokoschka (1886–1980), who painted many works about their shared passion. Although they broke up after a few years, Kokoschka continued an unrequited and hopeless love for Alma and later painted The Bride of the Wind in her honour.
With the coming of WWI, Kokoschka enlisted in the Austrian Army, so Alma resumed contact with Gropius who by this time was a soldier himself. She and Gropius married in 1915 and had a child together, Manon Gropius, who died tragically at 18. Composer Alban Berg wrote a violin work in Manon’s honour.
With Gropius still in the army, Alma began an affair with Czech poet and writer Franz Werfel (1890–1945) in 1917, an affair that became very public. Within a year, Gropius and Alma agreed to a divorce which became final in 1920. However Alma and Werfel did not marry until 1929.
In 1938, Werfel’s Jewishness became critical. With the Anschluss, Werfel was forced to flee Austria for France; so Alma joined him in a house in Southern France from 1938 until 1940. With the German invasion and occupation of France during WW2, Werfel faced Nazism terrorism close up and needed to immigrate to the USA as quickly as possible. Luckily Varian Fry, organiser of a private American relief and rescue organisation, was saving intellectuals and artists from Marseilles. Fry arranged for the Werfels to travel by foot across the Pyrenees into Spain, then to Portugal and by ship for New York. I do not understand why Alma went into exile with her Jewish husband since a] she did not like Jews, b] she quite supported Nazism and c] she actively supported Franco in Spain.
In the USA Werfel had great success with his novel The Song of Bernadette, which was made into a film in 1943. Alas Werfel died in the USA in 1945 but it did not seem to matter to Alma. In 1946 she became a USA citizen and remained a major cultural figure in New York. She died in 1964 in New York and was buried back in Vienna, alongside Gustav Mahler. Scholars carefully read her two books on Mahler, so not only was she a well-connected member of Vienna’s cultural elite, Alma was the main authority on Mahler's life and work. Accurately or not.
The New York Times said that early in life Alma seems to have understood that in the male-dominated atmosphere of Vienna, her role was to be a motivator and stimulant of brilliant men, in bed and out. But I wonder if being a famous socialite and active supporter of Gustav Mahler, Walter Gropius, Oskar Kokoschka, Franz Werfel and others was enough. Surely her own musical talents could have been much better realised.
At least until the time of her engagement to Mahler, Alma had composed her own Lieder and instrumental pieces. Yet only a limited number of her songs were published - in 1910, 1915 and 1924. Three additional songs were discovered in manuscript form in the Austrian National Library in Vienna, after Alma’s death.
I have not seen the book The Bride of the Wind: the life and times of Alma Mahler-Werfel by Susanne Keegan (published by Viking). But The Times was impressed. “Ms Keegan interweaves Alma's amorous progress through some of the most elevated artistic figures in Europe with a portrayal of Viennese social life at its most culturally refined, when it combined steaminess, stuffiness and artistic aspiration in a uniquely creative cocktail”.
I have not seen the book The Bride of the Wind: the life and times of Alma Mahler-Werfel by Susanne Keegan (published by Viking). But The Times was impressed. “Ms Keegan interweaves Alma's amorous progress through some of the most elevated artistic figures in Europe with a portrayal of Viennese social life at its most culturally refined, when it combined steaminess, stuffiness and artistic aspiration in a uniquely creative cocktail”.